Haven of Mercy

  “Why Does He Do That': Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.” by Lundy Bancroft" Lundy Bancroft's book is an impactful and eye-opening exploration of abusive behavior and its complex psychology. This book will challenge preconceived notions and myths and shed light on the dynamics of abusive relationships. It is the most in-depth book on the minds of these angry and controlling men. It is written in such a way that it helps each of us to understand the true depravity of an abuser's heart and mind.  Bancroft is empathetic and compassionate, providing a deep understanding of the mindset and patterns of abusive individuals. Drawing from his extensive experience as a counselor and advocate for domestic violence survivors, Bancroft offers invaluable insights that help victims recognize the signs of abuse and develop strategies for moving forward. Warning and Disclosures:  ·          Secular Perspective: "Why Does ...

Most of us would agree that the lessons we have learned by experience are longer-lasting, cause deeper change, and are more poignant than those of other people, as relayed to us by them. Our own trials teach us so much about our hearts and the heart of God that, while we would never want others to have to experience the pain and turmoil of the darkest times in our lives, we WOULD wish on them the lessons learned, the deeper relationship with God we have as a result of those journeys through the “valley of the shadow of death,” and the beautiful blooms of new grace evident in our lives because of  the paths He has led us down .  ​ Solomon instructs us in Proverbs 21:11 that “when the wise is instructed, he  receiveth  knowledge.”  Living in wisdom (living in Christ, who is wisdom) means seeking out instruction, receiving that instruction, and receiving knowledge through it. As Spurgeon said, “wisdom is knowledge rightly used.” 1   I am thankful that we may a...

  This review first appeared in the February 15, 2023 issue of the Standard Bearer.   We thank Cherith for allowing us to republish it here. There is a light shining on sexual abuse.   Scandals continue to leak.   Not just from “other churches,” but from within our own.   Articles have been written.   Videos, podcasts, and books are being watched, listened to, and read.   Churches are talking about and pursuing policies.   Where there is still much room for growth and change, there are glimmers of hope for the spirits of those that have been scarred by the fires of sexual abuse.   Yet, after hearing the desperation, hopelessness, and shame of an abused wife bleed before me, I continue to believe more must be done regarding other forms of oppression, such as spousal abuse, as well.   Although there are many challenges surrounding cases of spousal abuse that can make it a difficult and intimidating topic to approach, they cannot deter ...