Counseling

Counseling is typically an amazing resource for domestic abuse survivors. However, some counselors are not trained in the dynamics of abuse. Here are three "reasons" that might be suggested by the counselor for the abuse:

1. He must have been stressed out from work.

2. He is depressed or has some other disorder.

3. Did you do something to provoke him? Is the house clean when he gets home? Are you nagging him? And so many more examples.

Stress, depression, or even someone else’s behavior is never the reason someone is abused. No one deserves to be abused, no matter how difficult they are.

Using stress, depression, being provoked etc. as an excuse adds to the harm being done to the victim and fuels the abuser’s belief that he has the right to continue in such behavior.

Victims need to be told, “It’s not your fault,” as many abusers often blame their victim for their abuse.

P.S. If your counselor suggests or implies that there are "valid" reasons for your abuse, we suggest looking for a new counselor who understands the dynamics of domestic abuse.

Counselors that have been recommended:

• Gabe Hernandez - Second Story Counseling

• Nick Burner - Second Story Counseling

• Sarah Meunsch

• Vincent Morton

• Mindful Counseling