Domestic Violence Awareness

As we come to the end of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, let's remember that truthful disclosure of your abuse is not gossip. Nor is it feminism, or a symbol of all women (or even one particular woman) rising up against all men. Nor does it mean that you don't love your husband, or that you just don't want to submit, or that you hate all men.

Rather, truthful disclosure is:

-a cry for help

-a means of seeking spiritual, emotional, and physical protection from your abuser

-a way to protect your children from being further exposed to this evil

-a sign of being pushed to your breaking point

-a way of requesting that the church do justice for the oppressed and love the perpetrator by confronting his sin

-shining light on the darkness of hidden sins

-loving your husband so much that you disclose as a first step to seeking help for him

There are a multitude of reasons why a woman does not come forward (and this post is not intended to make her feel guilty for suffering silently). One of those reasons is that she fears that her disclosure will be viewed as "gossip" or "rising up" or anything else other than her pure motivations.

Let's support those who have yet to disclose by not casting doubt on the motives of those who have disclosed.

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Justin & Lindsey Holcomb "Things Parents & Caregivers Can Do To Protect ...

“1 in 5 children will be abused before their 18th birthday. In the United States this would be the entire Pacific and Mountain time zones’ population combined. Most children know their abusers- 34% are family members, 59% are acquaintances, and only 7% of perpetrators are strangers. Too many parents have a false sense of security and minimize the possible threats in front of them.” Here’s an insightful video from Justin and Lindsey Holcomb, authors of Rid of My Disgrace and God Made All of Me, on helping parents and caregivers learn steps they can take to keep their children safe.

Something’s Not Right

“Something’s Not Right” by Dr. Wade Mullen provides a worthy overview and accessible introduction to abuse. This book is an excellent read for those who are questioning relationships with people or organizations such as their place of employment or school. This book is also a valuable tool for those who are willing to advocate for victims and survivors of abuse. If you are busy or maybe not a big reader, this is a great read – the chapters aren’t long, they are easy to understand and very impactful. The information inside this short book is eye-opening and full of practical knowledge useful even for teens who will soon be entering college or the workforce. Dr. Mullen’s writing clearly explains how language and behavior can make us wonder about things being a little bit “off”. We can’t quite put our finger on what is giving us the feeling of unease - that gives evidence to the truth that abuse can be subtle and the deceiver often two steps ahead of the victim. This book is extre...

HAVEN '24

Upcoming Conference HAVEN '24: A Biblical and Compassionate Response to Abuse in the Church HAVEN of Mercy invites you to hear advocate and survivor Rachael DenHollander and pastor and counselor Chris Moles speak at our conference on domestic and sexual abuse. Rachael and Chris will each give three speeches with an opportunity for questions and meet-and-greet. Information about tickets, paid livestream options, and sponsorship opportunities will be available soon. When: January 12 & 13 Where: Fair Haven Church, Hudsonville MI Here is a link to the tickets for the conference. https://www.eventbrite.com/e/ 717318919197?aff=oddtdtcreator

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