Violence in Abusive Relationships

How do you know if you are in immediate danger in your relationship?

While any abusive relationship could turn violent and lethal at any time, there are some red flags to be aware of that require some urgency. Violence in a relationship does not always follow a specific pattern or order but there are a few signs of imminent deadly violence to be aware of:

Has your partner threatened to use a weapon, or has he hurt you with a weapon?

Has your partner threatened to kill you?

Has your partner strangled you?

Has your partner threatened or tried to kill himself?

Does your partner spy on you, follow you, and stalk you?

Has your spouse forced you to have sex when you did not want to?

Has your partner increased the frequency or intensity of his violence in the last year?

If you can answer yes to any of these questions, the need for a safety plan is critical. Please reach out to a HAVEN advocate at dahelp@havenofmercypr.org and they will help you create a safety plan.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) has many free resources to help with safety planning as well.

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