Violence in Abusive Relationships

How do you know if you are in immediate danger in your relationship?

While any abusive relationship could turn violent and lethal at any time, there are some red flags to be aware of that require some urgency. Violence in a relationship does not always follow a specific pattern or order but there are a few signs of imminent deadly violence to be aware of:

Has your partner threatened to use a weapon, or has he hurt you with a weapon?

Has your partner threatened to kill you?

Has your partner strangled you?

Has your partner threatened or tried to kill himself?

Does your partner spy on you, follow you, and stalk you?

Has your spouse forced you to have sex when you did not want to?

Has your partner increased the frequency or intensity of his violence in the last year?

If you can answer yes to any of these questions, the need for a safety plan is critical. Please reach out to a HAVEN advocate at dahelp@havenofmercypr.org and they will help you create a safety plan.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) has many free resources to help with safety planning as well.

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Something’s Not Right

“Something’s Not Right” by Dr. Wade Mullen provides a worthy overview and accessible introduction to abuse. This book is an excellent read for those who are questioning relationships with people or organizations such as their place of employment or school. This book is also a valuable tool for those who are willing to advocate for victims and survivors of abuse. If you are busy or maybe not a big reader, this is a great read – the chapters aren’t long, they are easy to understand and very impactful. The information inside this short book is eye-opening and full of practical knowledge useful even for teens who will soon be entering college or the workforce. Dr. Mullen’s writing clearly explains how language and behavior can make us wonder about things being a little bit “off”. We can’t quite put our finger on what is giving us the feeling of unease - that gives evidence to the truth that abuse can be subtle and the deceiver often two steps ahead of the victim. This book is extre...

Justin & Lindsey Holcomb "Things Parents & Caregivers Can Do To Protect ...

“1 in 5 children will be abused before their 18th birthday. In the United States this would be the entire Pacific and Mountain time zones’ population combined. Most children know their abusers- 34% are family members, 59% are acquaintances, and only 7% of perpetrators are strangers. Too many parents have a false sense of security and minimize the possible threats in front of them.” Here’s an insightful video from Justin and Lindsey Holcomb, authors of Rid of My Disgrace and God Made All of Me, on helping parents and caregivers learn steps they can take to keep their children safe.

HAVEN '24

Upcoming Conference HAVEN '24: A Biblical and Compassionate Response to Abuse in the Church HAVEN of Mercy invites you to hear advocate and survivor Rachael DenHollander and pastor and counselor Chris Moles speak at our conference on domestic and sexual abuse. Rachael and Chris will each give three speeches with an opportunity for questions and meet-and-greet. Information about tickets, paid livestream options, and sponsorship opportunities will be available soon. When: January 12 & 13 Where: Fair Haven Church, Hudsonville MI Here is a link to the tickets for the conference. https://www.eventbrite.com/e/ 717318919197?aff=oddtdtcreator

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