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Sexual Abuse of Children - Part 2


A number of years ago I never would have imagined that anyone I knew would ever tell me that they experienced child sexual abuse. Maybe that has been your thought too?

And then it happened. I remember not feeling prepared at all and not knowing how to respond.
But I knew I wanted to learn.
Now I want to share what I have learned with you.
First, their disclosure is not about you. This is their experience and their life; don’t make it about you.
Listen to them. It is their story to tell with the details they want to give.
Be compassionate. Respond with love and humility. Cry with them. Tell them the abuse was not their fault.
Ask your friend if he/she is safe, and if necessary help him/her to get to safety.
Be a friend. Be interested in them as a whole person. Ask them about the things that brought them joy today and what they care about.
Pray. Don’t rely on your own strength or understanding but turn to God and His word.
Learn. Taking the initiative and taking the time to learn about abuse speaks volumes about your care for your friend or fellow church member.
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