Sexual Abuse of Children

Sexual Abuse of Children - Part 2

A number of years ago I never would have imagined that anyone I knew would ever tell me that they experienced child sexual abuse. Maybe that has been your thought too?

And then it happened. I remember not feeling prepared at all and not knowing how to respond.

But I knew I wanted to learn.

Now I want to share what I have learned with you.

First, their disclosure is not about you. This is their experience and their life; don’t make it about you.

Listen to them. It is their story to tell with the details they want to give.

Be compassionate. Respond with love and humility. Cry with them. Tell them the abuse was not their fault.

Ask your friend if he/she is safe, and if necessary help him/her to get to safety.

Be a friend. Be interested in them as a whole person. Ask them about the things that brought them joy today and what they care about.

Pray. Don’t rely on your own strength or understanding but turn to God and His word.

Learn. Taking the initiative and taking the time to learn about abuse speaks volumes about your care for your friend or fellow church member.

Check out our website where you will find many resources, and keep following us here!

https://www.havenofmercypr.org/sexual-abuse-education

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Something’s Not Right

“Something’s Not Right” by Dr. Wade Mullen provides a worthy overview and accessible introduction to abuse. This book is an excellent read for those who are questioning relationships with people or organizations such as their place of employment or school. This book is also a valuable tool for those who are willing to advocate for victims and survivors of abuse. If you are busy or maybe not a big reader, this is a great read – the chapters aren’t long, they are easy to understand and very impactful. The information inside this short book is eye-opening and full of practical knowledge useful even for teens who will soon be entering college or the workforce. Dr. Mullen’s writing clearly explains how language and behavior can make us wonder about things being a little bit “off”. We can’t quite put our finger on what is giving us the feeling of unease - that gives evidence to the truth that abuse can be subtle and the deceiver often two steps ahead of the victim. This book is extre...

Justin & Lindsey Holcomb "Things Parents & Caregivers Can Do To Protect ...

“1 in 5 children will be abused before their 18th birthday. In the United States this would be the entire Pacific and Mountain time zones’ population combined. Most children know their abusers- 34% are family members, 59% are acquaintances, and only 7% of perpetrators are strangers. Too many parents have a false sense of security and minimize the possible threats in front of them.” Here’s an insightful video from Justin and Lindsey Holcomb, authors of Rid of My Disgrace and God Made All of Me, on helping parents and caregivers learn steps they can take to keep their children safe.

HAVEN '24

Upcoming Conference HAVEN '24: A Biblical and Compassionate Response to Abuse in the Church HAVEN of Mercy invites you to hear advocate and survivor Rachael DenHollander and pastor and counselor Chris Moles speak at our conference on domestic and sexual abuse. Rachael and Chris will each give three speeches with an opportunity for questions and meet-and-greet. Information about tickets, paid livestream options, and sponsorship opportunities will be available soon. When: January 12 & 13 Where: Fair Haven Church, Hudsonville MI Here is a link to the tickets for the conference. https://www.eventbrite.com/e/ 717318919197?aff=oddtdtcreator

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